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Talk It Out:
Winter Birthday Parties for Kids


"My daughter has a birthday in January. I am looking for fun and low-cost birthday party ideas. Since everything will have to be indoors, I really didn't want to have the party at my home. But I don't really want to pay the high price to have it at one of the typical birthday party places, either. Any ideas?" ~ Susan


Responses:

"We were just invited to a birthday party at our local university's gymnasium.  There will be a basketball game between the kids and other indoor games.  I'm not sure of the cost to rent a room to do this, but I thought it was a great idea." ~ Kris


"My nephews' birthdays are in November and February. They have both had awesome sledding parties. We make the invitation BYOS (bring your own sled) and we round up a few extras from the family just in case someone didn't have one. We have a great sledding hill on our property and we build a bonfire and have hotdogs, marshmallows and cocoa. It really is a great time. My sister Abby is also a November birthday and her favorite parties have always been slumber parties.  Mom always limited it to her 3 closest friends and they did lots of good food and movies." ~ Anonymous 


"When my daughter was young we did a princess party in early February. All the girls sat at our kitchen table and made their own crowns with construction paper, glue and glitter. Then of course, they posed for pictures in their crowns. After a party game and cake and ice cream, each girl took home a 'long stemed' carnation. Use your imagination and make the girls feel like special princesses!" ~ Lorraine


"Here are a few things we have done for winter parties. You can do these at home, or use space at your church or public library or community center.

Game Night: invite the children over to play board and card games. Serve some lasagna and ice cream

Snowflake making: Get some butcher paper and put cover a table. Get a lot of white paper and paper of other colors too, plus some scissors. Have the kids make snowflakes. They also can paint your windows with winter scenes, using washable paint.

Valentine party: For this one, we covered the floor with the butcher paper. Everyone was asked to contribute something to make Valentines with. We provided the paper, some lace paper doilies, the glue sticks." ~ Allison in New Jersey


"My daughter’s birthday is in November. We have had a difficult time every year trying to figure out where to have her parties. Last year we had her party at the church. If you are a member they allow you to use the recreation area at no cost. So we played games, I made some snacks, and we had a 'makeover' (little girls of course!) It was so much fun! This year we had a swimming party. She has always wanted one and never been able to because of the month of her birthday. A local Junior High school has an indoor pool so I called to see if perhaps we could use it. It only cost me $35 for 10 children and they loved it! Much cheaper then the YMCA or other alternatives. So that is something to check out too." ~ Juli


"If you are a member of a church, perhaps they would allow use of a room in the church for a party.  I think I'd probably start with a call to the Village or Town Office and ask what meeting places there are that you could rent." ~ Anonymous


"Birthday in the winter?  Well, I raised two boys, both of which were born in the winter. Bad parent planning huh?  I soon learned that there are several alternatives to having all those boys in the house. We would celebrate by having a bowling party.  Most bowling establishments have party rooms where you could serve cake/ice cream. We would give party favors and have gifts for the highest score winners. One year we took a handful of boys (smaller party) to a local in-door aquarium and afterward we went to a pizza establishment that would allow us to bring our own cake. Another idea: We have someone in our community that has a small petting zoo. We took the boys here when they were young. Even though it was cold, they forgot about the weather because they got to see goats, a camel, a llama, and other exotic type animals. They were allowed to ride a donkey, milk a goat, and feed a monkey. It was a real hit with the boys. One year I took the boys to the local arcade allowing them a certain amount of money for them and their friends to spend however they wished. I'm not sure what I would have done for girls. But I was blessed with boys. They aren't near as picky." ~ Anonymous


"First let me say I have a large family and the kids don't usually have parties with outside friends invited. But here are some ideas either we've done or seen other families do by inviting maybe 2-4 of the child's friends to participate with the family.

1. For our wedding which was in February (in a rather cold state), we rented a shelter at the local lake.  The shelter had a cheaper price because it was winter and wasn't as high in demand. Some of the shelters are next to playground equipment in case it was warm enough that day for the kids to play a little while outside. 

2. You don't have to pay the "birthday party" price to go other places and enjoy yourself. We've taken birthday cakes into places like Chuck E. Cheese, and just planned a little extra money for the kids to play games. Ask your local skating rink if you can do the same, and just let it be known the shoe rental price will need to be paid by anyone attending.

3. See if a friend or relative has an extra room or basement you could use for the party.

4.  Plan home crafts. 
- For $20.00 you can buy bead kits for the kids to make necklaces or bracelets. You might find individual items at a hobby store cheaper (i.e. a 3lb bag of beads, and a couple rolls of elastic string).

- One year my daughter and her friends made glycerin soap. Glycerin is typically clear. I provided colorings and scents, and even cheap little trinkets to put in the center of the soaps. (This idea works with boys because they can put flies and frogs etc in the soap.) I bought special molds, but muffin or loaf pans, small glass bowls, all would work.

- The children can cut out different colored papers or construction paper and make the child of honor a special birthday card or a picture.

- For many years now I've made our children's birthday cakes. If you want to make something fancy, like a character (Barbie, smurf, ninja turtle, superman, Strawberry shortcake, etc) sometimes you can borrow or rent a cake pan from the local cake supply store (Wilton's comes to mind).  That way you're not buying a pan you will only use once or twice." ~ Maggie


"My daughter just turned 5 yesterday.  She wanted to invite three friends over for lunch after preschool. I picked up a few decorations at the Dollar Tree, made cupcakes (which the kids got to decorate themselves), and picked up Happy Meals from McDonald's. The kids had a great time with the meals, then decorated the cupcakes. My daughter likes crafty stuff, and requested sand art as a project. We did sand art, spin art, then made homemade cards with leftover stickers. I have lots of craft supplies, so each of these projects costs very little. I bought the spin art kit at Goodwill for $2, and cut my own paper. I'm not sure what it did cost for the whole party, but it wasn't much over the cost of the happy meals. Maybe $30?  It surely could cut the cost to have homemade snacks/or not serve lunch, but we did everything right after preschool when we were all hungry. I think the best part was the craft part, because all of the kids had things they could touch and hold and take with them." ~ Anonymous


"My daughter has a summer birthday, but we celebrate it with her classmates in March (vs June). Why? Well, after 3 years in a row of only one or two kids coming, we discovered many of her classmates went to their other parents' homes for the summer. So we now have her party early. We had a great turn out last year (12). We went to the roller rink and they skated. We had the place to ourselves on a Saturday afternoon although the place was open for general business, I didn’t rent it out! I took my own cake & ice cream & pop for the girls. I paid for each girl to skate ($4), but it was just wonderful having kids show up!

  Another idea is grouping it with other activities that might be happening. Beginning the Saturday after Thanksgiving our local theater has free kids movies each week. The merchants pay for all the tickets and it is free to attend. Last week there was a birthday party! I thought it was a wonderful idea, the parents bought popcorn etc for the kids, and they all sat together and had a ball with their friends.

  Maybe a sledding party, hot chocolate and snacks? All the school kids have to have snow pants anyway – so they should all have the warm clothes. Maybe meet at a local sledding park & have the party portion in the shelter house? " ~ Mary


"My daughter has a December birthday and we just had a Pooh Bear Pajama Pizza Party. The girls all wore their pajamas over (the party started at 5pm). Then they decorated a journal. (I had bought journals at the beginning of the school year really cheap. I covered the front with card stock and the girls decorated them with stickers!) Then the girls ate homemade pizza, watched the Heffalump movie, had cake and ice cream, then my daughter opened her gifts. The party took no more than three hours and it was easy and fun for the girls!" ~ Yvonne


"One family of 4 with 2 young children reserves our church fellowship hall where they have a wonderful party for each child." ~ April


"My son has a winter birthday as well. Check with your local church, ours allows us to use the fellowship room, as long as we clean it up when we are done, for no charge. 

Some other thoughts are to limit the number of guests. Then having it at your home is not as big a deal. We often let the child and his friend decorate their own cupcake or small cake as an activity.  Rolling out sugar cookies is fun as well that boys and girls seem to like. Also check out other area places. You can get a room at some of our pizza places for free but that requires buying pizza. Some park districts also let you use rooms for a minimal fee.  Depending on your child's age you can take the party to a bowling alley or roller rink normally for each child's entry fee.  A sledding party or ice skating party is a great outdoor activity...just a few thoughts. We also celebrate our son's half birthday in May and as he gets older, we may make this the birthday that he invites friends to." ~ Sarah


"For a low cost December birthday party I would take my son and his friends to the community pool, bowling or roller skating. The best year was when he wanted a surprise birthday party. We told him the party would be at 2 PM but actually invited his friends at 9AM. A parent of one of the guests gathered all the children outside so that they all came up to the door together and rang the bell. I asked Luke, who was still in his pajamas, to get the door.  We left for the pool about 9:40 and later came home for cake and ice cream and gifts." ~  Merlajean 


"Having an 'at home' party doesn't have to be stressful or expensive. We threw a winter 'pamper party' for my niece's birthday. For crafts, the girls moved from station to station making friendship bracelets, decorating picture frames with snowflakes (each child took home the frame filled with a group picture that was taken at the beginning of the party and developed at a nearby one-hour photo lab), and each girl put together their own gift bags to take home with pamper items like loofah sponges, decorative soaps, etc [all available at dollar stores]. Next, we set up a fire pit and roasted marshmallows and made s'mores. Finally, we had a spa time where each girl had pedicures and manicures, complete with feet and hand waxing, feet soaking, polish and nail decals. This party was so successful that every girl said it was the best party they had ever attended...and it was all done very inexpensively." ~ Candy


"I have twins whose birthday falls in January (as does mine!)  Perhaps Susan could check into using her church's fellowship or activity hall. We did this one year, and it worked out great. These rooms are usually free for members to use and large enough for the kids to be able to move around and have higher energy games than they would in a smaller living room at home. She could also get party favors at the dollar store and hide them around the room before the kids arrive and have a treasure hunt as one of the activities. By having the party from 2-4 pm, she wouldn't need to serve a meal, just cake and ice cream. The only trade-off might be having to do a bit more clean-up than she would at a 'party place,' but 15 minutes of running the sweeper and wiping down the tables is worth the savings!" ~ Carolyn


"Both my children where born in December (ages 10 & 3).  With my older one once she reached 8 we started having a craft party where everyone does a craft that we come up with an idea from recycled products. Last year we used the CDs from AOL that came in the mail and made picture ornaments. My daughter picked a picture of her choice ofg the computer and we then printed them and added them to the CDs along with stickers and a ribbon and ribbon hanger. When she was small (3 - 6) we would frost and decorate cookies or cupcakes and one year we made our own ice cream sundaes.  Everyone wants to come to our house for parties but we limit to our best friends and closest family to help keep the cost down and we start planning a month in advance so we have everything we need." ~ Debbie 


"Strike a blow for simplicity. Something simple will not be too overwhelming to have in the house. Have a few children over for the afternoon for lunch, cake, and playing together.

Kids are totally capable of entertaining themselves; why have we turned birthday parties into these huge entertainment events? More than once I have picked up one of my children from a party where the kids are running around playing tag or something and the mother tells me, 'I had some more activities for them, but they just want to play together!'

Make the afternoon special by making your daughter's favorite lunch and having a special cake. Request "no presents" or else have the guests bring a food shelf item (food shelf donations go way down after Christmas). Don't do goodie bags or, if you feel you
must, make some home-baked cookies and put them in brown paper bags that your daughter has decorated with markers. If you want to have organized activities, play an age-appropriate board game together. Maybe have a cheap craft to do. Make sure the time the kids are at the party is appropriate for their age; having 4 year olds over for more than two hours or so is going to be frustrating for over-stimulated children and weary parents.

At my daughter's birthday we had big boxes my husband got from work; we connected them with packing tape, cut holes for doors and windows and the kids spent all
afternoon coloring the boxes with crayons and running in and out. We had homemade pizza and a homemade cake. That was it and everyone had a wonderful time.

Let's stop the birthday party madness now!" ~ Catherine


"My son’s birthday is in January too (he’ll turn 4 in 2006!). I want him to know that serving others is a great gift to give yourself, and makes you feel even better than getting presents. We are planning to have a party at the Ronald McDonald House where we once stayed for almost 3 months and subsequently for shorter visits. Volunteers go in a few times a week to prepare dinner for all of the families staying there (we were served by families, local medical, nursing and dental students, various church and synagogue groups, groups of airline employees…)  We are planning to invite a few people to help us take in a meal for the families, complete with cake and ice cream. My son will get some presents - at home!  Another year we bought lots of little presents for the kids at the party, but this year we are going to skip that for financial reasons. We will put up decorations. “Our” RMH is beautifully decorated (I think they all probably are) and is a great place for a kids party – not much of a surprise there! J

  If this idea appeals to you, you could call your local Ronald McDonald House and find out how to schedule a night. You don’t have to be former residents. Your local house will be able to tell you their guidelines. I’m sure they have similar policies, but each Ronald McDonald House is different and is operated independently.

  ***Please remember that if you do this, you’ll have to make it more about serving the families than celebrating your child’s birthday. Decorating the cake to serve everyone is great, and your child will know it’s “for” him/her, and some people will ask whose birthday it is and take an interest in that. But people will be in various moods and it’s probably best not to ask people who are struggling with their child being sick to sing happy birthday or even care whose birthday it is. Honestly, some of them will only be showing up for food (and thank heaven that’s why you’re there! to minister to them!).  Also, it would probably be best to invite only a few people to help serve and clean up. You’ll be amazed at the love in the place!***

  Another option: once a month at the RMH where we stayed (in Baltimore ) there is a birthday party for all children who have birthdays that month. Perhaps you could find out how to help with that if your local RMH does it too.

  Finally, one more option: Ronald McDonald House would be a great place to deliver Christmas/misc. shoeboxes for children of a variety of ages! They could be distributed to the patients and their siblings. Gifts would need to be geared toward a non-home setting like hospitals and doctors’ offices (nothing too messy, etc.). Filling and decorating boxes would be a great craft/service project for a child’s party at your home. You could deliver them any time of year. Like most charities, they get tons of stuff at Christmas. Kids are sick in August too!

  If there is no RMH in your area, you could check with local hospitals. Many major hospitals have similar nearby lodges for families." ~ Anne


"It could be tough to plan because of the weather, but you could do an winter theme party. If there is snow, they could build forts, have a snowball fight, etc.  If no snow, maybe have the party in the garage. If it's super cold and have a paper snowball fight (just wad up white paper - kids love it!), cut out snowflakes and play other winter- themed games or even just board games. If you get a good supply of them the kids could spend all afternoon playing those. You could even borrow the board games from others so you don't have to buy them. You could make homemade marshmallows with the kids if they like to cook to put in special hot chocolate.  Serve with cookies (the kids could decorate those too) and you have an 'easy' afternoon." ~ Liz


"My daughter just went to a birthday party held at Micheals craft store.  They made a craft, and it was conducted by a Micheals employee.  Then had cake and brought her craft home.  The girls had a wonderful time.... and talked and laughed as they created their work of art." ~ Diana


"I have a son who had his birthday Dec 17 and I have a daughter who has her birthday January and another son in February. The son who had his party this past weekend asked everyone to bring skates, hockey sticks and helmets and they spent the afternoon - approx. 4 hours - skating and playing hockey. The kids were all 11 years old but they went out for 2 hours at a time and our temperature was - 20 degrees Celsius (about -4 degrees Celsius). For my daughter we will probably go to our local pool, pay for the public swim and rent the party room for the last hour (for the hot dogs and cake). She will be turning six and I don't think her friends would last in the cold weather like the 11 year olds did.  Other ideas would be to rent your school gym. The cost to rent the school gym here is about $10.00/hour and you have access to the gym equipment. Hope this helps." ~ GG


"Recently my grandson (age 4) attended a BD party which was held at the local Fire House.  They had a meeting room where they learned about the fireman's clothes and got to ask questions.  They got to sit in the fire truck and tour where the firemen sleep and eat.   Back in the meeting room there were refreshments and opening of the presents.  The best part was that there was no charge for using the Fire House." ~ Grandma


What to do when it's too cold for an outdoor birthday party?? We wrestle with this too, as my son was born in January.

 Depending on the age of the birthday kid, a few ideas might be....

 -- How about having an indoor picnic?  Shuffle furniture around in the living room or kitchen, remove breakables, spread blankets and beach towels on the floor, and serve hotdogs, cake etc "picnic style."  Indoor games could be modified to a summer theme too, depending on the child's age (pin the flag on the sand castle instead of pin the tail on the donkey, for eg.)  Put on "summer" beach music and have the kids dance in place -- with little prizes for the wildest, craziest dance (give prizes for staying in one place so that the chaos is confined.  :-)   )

 Have a movie theatre party...set up a ticket booths at the door for kids to 'buy' tickets as they enter, have a concession stand with popcorn etc, and set up the newest and greatest video or DVD for their viewing pleasure.  You can break for 'intermission' ( a few party games etc) if you want.

 Have a concert.  When kids arrive, they make weird and wild musical instruments and then 'rehearse' and stage a concert (use a blanket or scrap fabric for the stage curtain" and you can provide dress-up stuff and bits of material so they can dress up if they want)...kids will spend forever revising their show, so this eats up lots of time and is lots of fun for them, besides being cheap for you and not involving too much running around and indoors madness. If you have a camcorder, you could record them....maybe for a "viewing" while cake is being served etc?

 Also...how cold and wet is too cold and wet?!!  If the birthday child lives in a snowy area, maybe advise the guests to bring lots of warm clothes that will stay dry, and then host a winter birthday carnival or winter Olympics...kids can go outside to build ice castles (freeze water and food coloring ahead of time, in buckets etc, so they have building blocks), have snow shoveling races, etc. etc.  Maybe even erect a tent (just a tarp might do) for pretend "Winter camping." Or for the awards ceremony at the end of a winter Olympics. Or take the party to a local toboggan hill and go tobogganing and do snow activities (color snow with food color, add syrup to make snow cones,  set up teams to be the the fastest to dress a snowman etc.)  Keep a crock pot of apple cider or hot chocolate brewing...and then bring kids in to warm up over presents and cake or a few games (board games, or Simon Says etc) in front of the fireplace, if you have one." ~ Kerry


"My daughter's birthday on December 19 was always a challenge.  One of her favorites was to take her friends to the local indoor pool during family swim time (1/2 the usual admission price at certain times at our pool). Swimming is not something most busy parents take the time to do with their kids at this hectic time of year, so that alone was a real treat for the kids.  Depending on their ages and our finances at the time, we would then go out for pizza and a birthday cake that I brought along, or order delivery pizza at home.  Kids are also happy with just a low-cost hot dog and chips, and homemade birthday cake." ~ Kathy in VA

 

Editor's Note: Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond.

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